I will be writing a bit more about Mexico, as I wait for all of the trauma to settle in. There was beauty too. A whole lot of beauty. But I’m mainly writing because one of my daily reads, The Pioneer Woman, is putting forth a bit of an illusion for her devoted readership. I’m talking about her useful post, Ten Important Things I’ve Learned About Blogging.
There is only one thing she writes that really hits it on the head — when she writes:
5. Allow your boundaries to set themselves naturally.
Don’t feel like you have to sit down and set rules about what you will and will not blog about from day one. Just blog, and see what feels comfortable for you.
I did that.
I’ve found, over time, that I tend to blog about the same things I’d talk to my sister about.
I’ve also found, over time, that I tend not to blog about things I wouldn’t talk to my sister about.
For example, I don’t blog about hanky panky.
I also don’t talk to my sister about hanky panky. If I did, she’d cover her ears and say, “Okay, gross.”
And you probably would, too.
What she doesn’t say here is that her blog is designed for a specific type of pleasure for her readers. Her boundaries are very much set by what her readers want to see from her. She knows what they don’t want to see because she has to listen to her readers complain in the comments section. I don’t think her sister has very much to do with it. Sorry to say, but if this is the kind of thing she talks about to her sister they have a very shallow relationship. Not to say there is anything wrong with shallow. If you can’t talk at all to someone you usually just put your best face forward and kind of fake it. And The Pioneer Woman definitely fakes it. But she does it very well. She does it so well that her blog is a must-read every morning. No one would tune in if it was just one complaint after another. No one wants to hear about how much her server costs or how long it takes her to edit and upload images. Or how frustrating it can be to always be taking photos while everyone else lives their lives.